Well, I’ve covered these chapters in two different study Sunday’s. And I suppose I am learning some from it. Or at least reminded some from it. I guess we spend so much time inside our own heads that it is unlikely we consider what may be going on in someone elses. However, it is true that EVERYONE has insecurities. We knew that already but, we still think somehow that our own securities our ours to own and no one else can relate. Being reminded that most of us are in the same boat against the same waves, is a little refreshing I guess, if you want to look at that way.
A Cocktail of Ego and Culture – Culture, ego and pride do not do us any favors. We constantly compare ourselves against others. Against other women, against other women in our mens lives, against other coworkers that are successful, when we don’t feel special, we don’t get the promotion or raise, we don’t get the job, we don’t win the argument, or name that tune that sings the song of whatever is hurting your pride. These things all make us insecure if we let it. We negative talk ourselves down even when we do not know it.
Don’t let it fool you – Insecurity will make a fool out of you. (Geez, I love food so much that everytime I try to type the word fool, “food” comes out instead. lol)
This chapter is one that helps you to understand that when we let our insecurity get in the way, the way we act/react can often make us feel and look stupid – lol. Everyone has a story. I have a few of my own. Ones that make you shake your head and go hmmmmm. But the good news is – insecurity and reacting – does this to everyone else too. The book really helps you see that others are in the same boat and that basically we ARE ALL just human and not deity and so we all have insecurities and we usually all deal with them poorly.
Insecurity robs us of so many things in life – sleep, confidence, derails us from our relationships and including our relationship with God. He wants us to be secure and we can be secure through Him. I don’t know what I would do if I did not have Him to run to. I get derailed all the time – much having to do with insecurities of the way life treats you. I seek nearly everything on earth to calm my spirit except to run to Him first. Often it’s in my times of destress when I finally realize I’ve tried to handle it every other way but to take it to God to handle.
A beautiful prize called dignity. Getting our dignity back – lol. The devil would love to just see us covered up in insecurity and everything else but self dignity. At that point we feel powerless to move forward. It distracts us and we have to break the cycle. We have to learn what triggers us into insecurity. It doesn’t take much. Sometimes only a second. Meeting a mate’s gorgeous coworker. Realizing the new person on the job has a degree in your field too. Seeing the boss go golfing with the rest of the team and you weren’t invited. Your emails don’t ever get answered. Your friends go to lunch without you. Your mate is a little late coming home from work. People stop reading your blog. Was it something I said? No one is speaking to you? Is there something about me people don’t like? Reading on Facebook, “were they talking about me?” Someone is whispering in the corner, someone you know has criticized others to you, and you wonder what it is they are saying about you now. Yeah, insecurity is a part of our world – every day, every where, nearly every moment.
In this chapter though we learn that God uses truth to set you free. And in the form of scripture is one way he can do this. We can be clothed with “strength and dignity” like the Woman of Proverbs, the “virtuous woman” and the “woman of noble character”, “her value beyond rubies”. Beth says that part of any woman’s healing is “reclaiming her God given dignity” and that God’s word is never beyond our reach. We have to trust God and be transparent with God about our insecurities. And recognizing the triggers and making up your mind “not to go there” and speaking to God about it – and reading upon His word and truth and guidance, will give us the clothing of dignity we need so that we do not bare our “emotional nakedness” as Beth mentions. God gives us the STRENGTH and the DIGNITY. Pride is the opposite of dignity. He crowns us with Dignity and to posess it is to be worthy of respect. He crowns us with it on our foreheads – right where we need it the most. No pride – but dignity.
A Time and a Place to Heal – It’s God’s will that we be restored to our our security. The confidence in approaching our God is that if we ask anything in His will, he will hear us. We at least need to know that he wants us to be healed of our insecurities, we simply need to ask.
Neither God nor Devils – Well this was all about women and men. Beth showed us how men have many of the same insecurities and most have to do with fear of failure or losing their mate or someone they love – not measuring up to what is expected of them by their mate or by other men in society. I think this surprises women that men have insecurities. It is not like them to show it. Men feel like they have to earn their manhood, while women just brace womanhood. Our men are not Gods to be worshipped and are not perfect as if a deity. We expect so much from our men because we expect them to be strong and loyal and faithful and kind and loving and meet our every need and emotion. We have a lot of high expectations for our men. But of those that have been disappointed by men- they are not devils either. They have insecurities as well.
Eating from the wrong tree. Instead of embracing life, we want the knowledge tree! We want to know “why” and “what” and “how come” and all the details but then when we know it – then what? We need to trust that God will let us know what we need to know and when we need to know it. I think that is one of the most profound lessons I have learned in this book – that right there and knowing what the triggers are that lead you into insecurity in the first place. We need to eat the tree of Life, trust God, and ignore the tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil that puts into knowing the Good and Evil – the things that God knows. It’s not always good to know the Good and Evil info that falls off of that tree.
I’m enjoying the study. I have about two more study Sunday’s to go and then I’ll be through with the book.